Bottom line, things are not so good between us. That is what I made this spread for

"What the heck am I to do with this woman??"
The spread is of 8 cards shaped as a question mark, something like this:

.........2..3.....
......1.......4...
.............5
...........6
...........7
.....................
...........8...

#1 How am I influenced by it conscious?
#2 How am I influenced by it sub-conscious?
#3 What can I do to make balance in these influences?
#4 How are my kids affected by the situation?
#5 What can I do to ensure balance in their lives?
#6 How does she see the situation?
#7 Where is the conflict born?
..
#8 How can I make balance in this situation

How you act outwards by influences could be and would often be very differently to what you feel inside.

example:
cleaning the house when you are angry,
being angry when you are sad,
that kind of stuff

This spread helped me notice what I did physically when she is "ruling my life or saying I am no worth" .... what I should look out for in everyday life

and in the sub, that she hurt me and what it did to my heart to have my mom be so evil.

Kids have been part of it, and object to it, that is why they should be in the spread as well - and as a mom obviously I want a solution to make them happy, happy, happy

Last I think it is important to have some kind of view of their view and their reason for being like this - with it comes some kind of understanding.

So the spread is made for a mom, who's mom (grandma) is simply filling up life way to much.